The Cultural Devastation of
American Women
by Nancy Levant (a woman with over 13 years experience as a childcare
provider), ©2006,
p. 128-129 |
Children have suffered from being
separated from their mothers for the last 40 years. Most children in daycare
centers have been too hungry, too tired, too wound up, too ignored, too
un-held and unloved during most of their days, and they have had 10 to 12
hour days of separation imposed upon them by the two-income culture. This
has never been ideal or even a halfway decent option, and they suffer in
ways that most parents insist upon ignoring...
As a culture, we have failed our children. We
thought we could build cute, colorful buildings to take them to and
compensate. we thought we could hire women and pay them minimum wage to
love, care for, and teach our children. We thought we could open these
buildings at 6:00 a.m. and leave our children in them for 12 hours, five
days a week, and be good parents. Denial, Denial, Denial.
We thought we could pay strangers to be
parents to our children--to potty train them, to teach them to walk and
read, to teach them to be creative and to have good manners. Denial.
Instead, our children, beginning from infancy, developed insecurities and
behaviors, which parents didn't like. And the children took their sullen
insecurities and behaviors home, at night, when they were too tired, too
hungry, too anxious from separation, and shocked their parents with angers,
resentments, obnoxious behaviors, and depressions. Truth hurts, doesn't it?
Category = Behavior,
Category = Caregiver, Quality
|
The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog
by Bruce Perry, M.D., Ph.D. & Maia Szalavitz,
©2006, p235 |
...I do know that many of our current
childcare practices are hurting our children. For example...staff members
are not allowed to touch the children. If they want to be hugged or held,
the adults are supposed to push them away! This is a classic example of how
a seemingly good idea--wanting to protect children from sexual
predators--can have serious negative consequences. children need healthy
touch. As we've seen, infants can literally die without it. It's part of our
biology.
Category = Behavior, Quality |
